How to Overcome Feelings of Inferiority

The first step to overcoming any challenge in your life, specifically your feelings of inferiority, is to acknowledge the challenge.

Growing up I had my own internal questions and body sensations that made me feel uneasy as I mentally battled within myself about my worthiness to be in the presence of certain people. I even experienced anxiety to go certain places knowing how I would feel when I got there.

In my book, There Is More Inside Personal Essentials to Living a Power-Packed Life I confessed, “I had my work cut out for me! I liked it when people told me how great I was—how talented, intelligent, and attractive I was. It gave me an external confidence, but inside I still didn’t own this belief myself. I would sabotage great opportunities and blame others when I ‘failed’. Deep within I doubted my abilities and, like most, questioned my existence.”

After doing my work and developing tools to help people to do their‘s, I offer you these starter questions:

  1. Together let’s agree that feeling inferior means that you believe the other person (or people) is more attractive, smarter, richer, or whatever you have told yourself and, therefore they have an advantage over you. Now ask yourself, what do you believe the other person (people) has that you don’t?
  2. Examine where that belief comes from. You believe what you believe based on what you’ve been told, accepted as true and what you have experienced. But is it true? When you don’t examine and challenge your beliefs they can hinder you from moving forward. Ask yourself, what do I believe about myself and others that is causing me to feel this way? And, why do I believe it?                                                                           
  3. Change your story. Now that you have discovered a new truth—own that truth. Change the story you tell yourself about yourself. When you give yourself the gift of a new narrative and different perspective, you’ll create new thoughts, feelings and ideas about yourself and others.

Copyright © 2018 S. Renee Smith.

 

 

How to Keep Conversation Going With a Guy

You don’t. Conversation is communication and communication is a sincere desire to engage with another person or people for the purpose of exchanging thoughts, beliefs and ideas.

If one person has to carry the weight and pressure of the conversation then it’s not a conversation at all. It’s an experience that causes you to feel the weight and worry of saying the right thing in order to keep the person engaged. That’s not conversation or communication, it’s fighting to be liked, accepted and needed.

Currently, I am married to a fabulous communicator. But when I was dating, there were men who just weren’t engaged. I could tell by how they interacted with me and communicated. In other words, I sensed they had other things and people that were more important and served as priorities.

As the author of the upcoming book, 5 Steps to Assertiveness : How to Communicate with Confidence and Get What You Want (Callisto Media, May 22, 2018), my best advice is to relax, enjoy listening and asking questions. If they engage back with you by asking you questions, you may have meet yourself an interesting friend.

Copyright © 2018 S. Renee Smith.

Can You Be Too Confident?

Living in a society that claims the lack of confidence is bad and encourages one to believe in themselves, but then accuses them of being arrogant or self-absorbed when they do, makes it difficult to know how much confidence is too much.

In my first book, There Is More Inside: Personal Essentials to Living Power-Packed Life I define confidence as “trusting your opinion of yourself more than you trust other people’s opinion about you.” Using this definition calls us to ask the question: can we trust our opinion of ourselves more than we trust other people’s opinion about us far too much?

I don’t believe so.

Getting to the point of fully trusting yourself is a lifelong journey. Yet, as we travel that path people will say things like “he thinks he’s all that” or “she thinks she thinks she’s cute.”
The reality of this assertion is the person making it thinks she thinks she thinks she’s cute. Did you get that? 🙂

Based on the definition shared above, that person’s opinion shouldn’t be in the equation so keep growing and trusting yourself, you’ll be glad you did.

Have You Been Duped?

All the clients I coach have one thing in common: They have been duped, hoodwinked, bamboozled!

Like you and I, they’ve been sucked into a lie about God, themselves and others, which is why we have underachieved in areas of our lives, too!

My role in the coaching process is to ask the right questions and help them see a different vision for themselves and their lives. In doing so, they bust out of lack and limitation into truth and abundance. Being part of their success of more recognition, increased income and creation of real joy is one of my most gratifying assignments.

In this audio, I take us one step deeper into ourselves. I share the penalty for our refusal to change. We are almost to the end of this series and know it’s time to make those gut wrenching decisions that will either keep you in the same space, move you backwards, or catapult you forward.

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If you know you are living beneath your potential and you are ready for the answer, I encourage you to consider a personal/business coach.

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A Rainbow in the Clouds

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Recently, to my surprise and great pleasure, the House of Representatives gave me a Commendation for “continued exhibition of the pursuit of excellence as a Personal Growth Expert.” Thank you for being a part of this humbling recognition.

Can I be honest? It hasn’t been easy. And one of the hardest things that I’ve had to do in my life is to let go of relationships that were not serving my highest good. And to admit that I could no longer be of service to certain individuals. These were people I grew up with or met over time. Either way, I learned to love and trust them with some of my deepest secrets. The truth is, when our lives started moving in different directions it became evident that we no longer shared the same values. Making the decision to excuse myself from these relationships felt like a part of me was drifting from me.

Dr. Maya Angelou says: There’s a rainbow in your clouds. Looking back I now know that I would not have been able to successfully move my life forward if I had stayed in that space with those individuals. My decision wasn’t passing judgement nor does it make them wrong or bad. I knew that if I was going to fulfill my mission in life I had to make some tough decisions. And stick by those decisions. Although I missed the habit of our interaction there was a miracle in it all.

While those relationships were dying new relationships were emerging. I discovered and nurtured relationships with people who shared the same values. Like most pivotal moments in our lives, we have to be willing to give up one thing to get another.

This audio is going to challenge you to do the same thing–make some tough decisions about your future. Listen now.

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Are You Playing Games?

Last week’s “Awaken Your Spiritual Senses” was as they say, “The Truth,” wouldn’t you say? Our truth is always changing to fit our needs, circumstances and desires. But, to fulfill our life’s calling we have to be open, truth seekers! And, that means seeking the truth of how God sees the situation. That was one of my greatest lessons. It’s not easy and I’m still learning how to live from that place of awareness.

Today, your intentions will be tested! Are you willing to relax, release and accept all things as being in order according to God’s will or would you prefer to manipulate and play games with yourself.

In this audio you’ll be asked to honor truth and divine wisdom. Will you answer that call? Awaken Your Spiritual Senses NOW!

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CEO – Author | Speaker | Branding & Life Coach | Image & Public Relations Consultant
There Is More Inside®
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