What Should I Do When I Don’t Know What to Do?

We all have moments when we don’t know what our next step should be.  It can be an overwhelming and daunting task to figure out what path to take. There are times when you don’t know what to do because you’re not sure what you want and then there are times when you know exactly what you want, but don’t know where or how to get started.

My clients come to be because they are stuck. Either they want to identify their internal barriers to success, figure out their life purpose, land a coveted promotion or after investing thousands of dollars in their business, they still don’t know how to package, pitch and promote themselves and what they do to create buzz and generate interest in them.

Here are my quick-fix suggestions:

1.  Ask for assistance. God has given you an internal guidance system. The only reason you don’t know what to do next is because you’re in a whirlwind of energy that is not your own. Sit with yourself and ask:

  1. What will serve my highest good and that of others?
  2. Who can help me get there?

You’ll be amazed how you are led to what you need when you need it by simply asking.

2. Act on your promptings even if they frighten you. You’ll have a feeling of what you should do. You may think about a person with whom you haven’t spoken to in years, reach out to them. If they don’t have the answer or don’t respond, don’t give up you’ll find the right door if you keep knocking.

3. Invest in yourself. You have to believe in yourself enough to get the information you need to advance your life and career. Be diligent in your pursuit of your passion and happiness. Invest in yourself by hiring a coach that can help with the following or any other needs:

  1.  assess what you have and how you can package, position and promote it
  2. identify your blind spots so that you can see what other people see that may be hindering you from getting what you want
  3. help you sharpen your tools for success

Are you stuck? Do you want to build a speaking business or some other enterprise? Is authoring a book on your list? Do you have your eyes on a new promotion opportunity? Is becoming a better communicator or public speaker on your mind? I’d love to help.  Visit srenee.com for more information and to book your consult.

Copyrights 2018 All rights reserved. S. Renee Smith.

 

Why Would a Person Falsely Accuse You?

Falsely accuse you? They don’t believe they are falsely accusing you. As they see it, you did it! Whatever the “it” is.

Isn’t it interesting how two people can have the same experience, yet experience it differently?

Yes, we have evidence that there are mean-spirited people in the world. However, I believe that most people mean well even though their behavior can have a malicious intent. In other words, it’s not a conscious intentional act. It’s their pain operating in and through them and in many cases they don’t even realize it.

Since we all play on both sides of the fence—being accused and being the accuser, I would encourage you to consider the following:

1. Forgive. Your hands aren’t clean either. We all have pain spots that cause us to see things that aren’t there. So forgive them with the understanding that “they know not what they do.”

2. Communicate. Go to the person with the desire to understand their point of view. It takes a courageous and confident individual to seek to understand the other person. In many cases, I think you’ll discover you both are being wrongfully accused.

3. Become an advocate. Decide to be the change in the world you are seeking. When you notice yourself about to be overtaken by a negative emotion, wake up and resist the temptation.

For tips on how to best communicate add 5 Steps to Assertiveness How to Communicate With Confidence and Get What You Want to your reading list.

As an introvert, how do I improve my communication skills?

If I understand your question, you are asking how can you improve your ability to connect and communication with people despite being shy? This being the case, I see this more as a challenge of how to step out of your shyness and being self-conscious about who you are in order to become more comfortable with yourself and others.

I was very shy growing up. This can make you feel lonely and invisible. If you are like me, by the nature of being shy, I was uncomfortable speaking and therefore, would become very nervous when I was around others and felt pressure when I was asked to speak. This caused me to stumble over my words.

I was able to overcome this challenge to ultimately become a successful speaker by doing the following:

  1. Recognize your equality to all people. It can be difficult to step out of your shyness with any limiting beliefs about yourself and your ability to successfully communicate your thoughts.
  2. Don’t compare yourself to others. When you look at others and compare yourself to them and how they communicate, it creates an artificial expectation of what you should be capable of doing.
  3. Practice sharing your opinion. A great start to breaking through the silence is to share what you’re thinking. To build your confidence and communication skills, take calculated risks by sharing with people you know genuinely like you and will celebrate your efforts.

Consider adding 5 Steps to Assertiveness How to Communicate with Confidence and Get What You Want to your reading list.

Copyright © 2018 S. Renee Smith.