How Can I Get My Boss (Client) to Notice Me?

I like this question because your thinking in the right direction.  People have to take notice of you before you’ll ever get an opportunity to sign the contract, land the book deal or secure a promotion.

The person whose attention you’re trying to get has to first see that there’s a reason to look your way. 

So let’s examine this question from their perspective. Ask yourself:

  • What are they looking for?
  • What do they want to achieve?
  • What’s important to them?

The only reason people will look your way is because you have something they want. So, do you have something they want? What is it? As I share in The Bridge to Your Brand Likability, Marketability, Credibility clients and customers (and your boss is your customer) are looking for the following:

1. Your innovative ideas that lets them know that you stay on top of your game.

2. Your intellectual property that says, you know what you know and you know how to position yourself in such a way that they know what you know. Did you get that? If not, read it again.

3. Your value proposition which clearly defines how what you know benefits them.

To learn more about how you can get noticed, sign up to get my 90-minute free audio course How to Create Buzz and Grow Your Life and Business  (if you don’t get the pop-up screen, scroll down to the bottom of the page and click, Get S. Renee’s Branding Secrets Now).

Copyrights 2018. All rights reserved S. Renee Smith.

What Should I Do When I Don’t Know What to Do?

We all have moments when we don’t know what our next step should be.  It can be an overwhelming and daunting task to figure out what path to take. There are times when you don’t know what to do because you’re not sure what you want and then there are times when you know exactly what you want, but don’t know where or how to get started.

My clients come to be because they are stuck. Either they want to identify their internal barriers to success, figure out their life purpose, land a coveted promotion or after investing thousands of dollars in their business, they still don’t know how to package, pitch and promote themselves and what they do to create buzz and generate interest in them.

Here are my quick-fix suggestions:

1.  Ask for assistance. God has given you an internal guidance system. The only reason you don’t know what to do next is because you’re in a whirlwind of energy that is not your own. Sit with yourself and ask:

  1. What will serve my highest good and that of others?
  2. Who can help me get there?

You’ll be amazed how you are led to what you need when you need it by simply asking.

2. Act on your promptings even if they frighten you. You’ll have a feeling of what you should do. You may think about a person with whom you haven’t spoken to in years, reach out to them. If they don’t have the answer or don’t respond, don’t give up you’ll find the right door if you keep knocking.

3. Invest in yourself. You have to believe in yourself enough to get the information you need to advance your life and career. Be diligent in your pursuit of your passion and happiness. Invest in yourself by hiring a coach that can help with the following or any other needs:

  1.  assess what you have and how you can package, position and promote it
  2. identify your blind spots so that you can see what other people see that may be hindering you from getting what you want
  3. help you sharpen your tools for success

Are you stuck? Do you want to build a speaking business or some other enterprise? Is authoring a book on your list? Do you have your eyes on a new promotion opportunity? Is becoming a better communicator or public speaker on your mind? I’d love to help.  Visit srenee.com for more information and to book your consult.

Copyrights 2018 All rights reserved. S. Renee Smith.

 

Do You Think People Are Unreasonable and Selfish?

As a coach, I’ve had the privilege to hear the perspective of hundreds of people. As a speaker, I’ve crossed paths with thousands. And my personal life is full with interactions with family and friends.

I can’t tell you the number of people I’ve coach who come to me because they believe their boss, colleague or spouse is selfish and unreasonable. I’ve even talk to women who believe that because a man will not marry them they are selfish and unreasonable. I have to confess; I’ve called some people selfish and unreasonable, too.

But why do we feel this way? Is it because they aren’t doing what we believe they should according to our needs and desires?

Consider the following:

People are complex. Countless experiences have shaped our perspective on life and the world. We don’t think our perceptions or expectations of others are unreasonable or selfish because it’s based on how we see it. When a person doesn’t do what satisfies us we label them as selfish and unreasonable, but is there a small chance that we could be selfish and unreasonable?

Identify the person’s agenda. Everyone has an agenda and they should. An agenda is simply a vision for what you want. The vision guides decisions. Make sure there is a connection point for a mutually satisfying relationship.

Recognize your power to choose. You have complete power over your life and the role that people play in it. Maybe it’s time to move them to your outer circle or completely out of your space.

Consider adding Self-Esteem for Dummies to your reading list for insights and exercises that will show you how to find and stand in your power.

Copyright 2018 S. Renee Smith. All rights reserved. 

Why Would a Person Falsely Accuse You?

Falsely accuse you? They don’t believe they are falsely accusing you. As they see it, you did it! Whatever the “it” is.

Isn’t it interesting how two people can have the same experience, yet experience it differently?

Yes, we have evidence that there are mean-spirited people in the world. However, I believe that most people mean well even though their behavior can have a malicious intent. In other words, it’s not a conscious intentional act. It’s their pain operating in and through them and in many cases they don’t even realize it.

Since we all play on both sides of the fence—being accused and being the accuser, I would encourage you to consider the following:

1. Forgive. Your hands aren’t clean either. We all have pain spots that cause us to see things that aren’t there. So forgive them with the understanding that “they know not what they do.”

2. Communicate. Go to the person with the desire to understand their point of view. It takes a courageous and confident individual to seek to understand the other person. In many cases, I think you’ll discover you both are being wrongfully accused.

3. Become an advocate. Decide to be the change in the world you are seeking. When you notice yourself about to be overtaken by a negative emotion, wake up and resist the temptation.

For tips on how to best communicate add 5 Steps to Assertiveness How to Communicate With Confidence and Get What You Want to your reading list.

What Are the Characteristics of a Self-Confident Person?

Wow! That is an interesting question. The reason is because it assumes that every person that is self-confident has the same qualities, I’m not sure we can make that assumption.

Coming from the belief that every person is unique and who they are and what they value constitutes their character, I would have reason to believe that there may be some consistent behaviors, but characteristics would be more diverse.

If you’re open to that thought, here are a few behaviors on my list:

1. Good decision makers. They don’t make decisions based on selfish motives. They have the ability to objectively examine a situation and make the choice that best serves their highest good and the highest good of others.

2. Global Thinkers. They see the world globally and the people within it with an understanding and responsibility to honor, respect and serve others who are different from them.

3. Passionate communicators. How we communicate speaks volumes of who we are, how we feel and what we believe about ourselves and others. When we learn to assertively speak our truth with compassion we create a better world.

Do you want to increase your confidence? Visit www.srenee.com and sign up to receive free audio trainings that will help you increase your confidence, build your brand and become an effective communicator.

Copyright 2018 S. Renee Smith. All rights reserved.

Can You Be Too Confident?

Living in a society that claims the lack of confidence is bad and encourages one to believe in themselves, but then accuses them of being arrogant or self-absorbed when they do, makes it difficult to know how much confidence is too much.

In my first book, There Is More Inside: Personal Essentials to Living Power-Packed Life I define confidence as “trusting your opinion of yourself more than you trust other people’s opinion about you.” Using this definition calls us to ask the question: can we trust our opinion of ourselves more than we trust other people’s opinion about us far too much?

I don’t believe so.

Getting to the point of fully trusting yourself is a lifelong journey. Yet, as we travel that path people will say things like “he thinks he’s all that” or “she thinks she thinks she’s cute.”
The reality of this assertion is the person making it thinks she thinks she thinks she’s cute. Did you get that? 🙂

Based on the definition shared above, that person’s opinion shouldn’t be in the equation so keep growing and trusting yourself, you’ll be glad you did.

My Faith Shaken; Life Changed

Recently, my faith was tested. My sister had an aneurysm burst in her brain, which required an 8-hour operation. The doctor forecasted a 1 in 3 chance of survival. Thankfully, after 22 days in the ICU she was released from the hospital. Feeling better now, she is recovering at home.

I’ll never forget Saturday, October 5 at 4:45 p.m. I was sitting at home working on a presentation for my client, healthcare giant Cigna, while anticipating a relaxed evening at a jazz concert. My father called, looking for my mother. When I told him she wasn’t at my home, in his usual calm voice he said, “Thaddeus (my sister’s husband) took Wanda to the hospital. They think an aneurysm burst in her brain.”

With tears running uncontrollably down my face, I headed to the hospital in disbelief. This unexpected turn of events changed my perspective on life. I now know what it feels like to notice you have a crack in your foundation – your faith.

We needed a miracle. And, to be honest, I was fearful that we would not get one. I needed a reference point. I looked to my grandmother’s life. She was given up on by doctors five times, yet lived to be 91 years old. After that, although I remained prayerful, I was good.

This lesson on volatility created a sense of urgency in me to help as many people as I can. That’s why, although I’ll continue to do live presentations, I’m taking my message to the Internet via webinars, teleseminars and live hangouts, and I suspect I will continue to find unconventional ways to teach, learn and grow from and with you. I hope you’re in!

Some time ago I sent out a 5-question survey. I wanted to know how you perceived our relationship, and what your most pressing concerns were. According to current results, the top 3 topics you wanted to learn more about were entrepreneurship, spiritual growth and self-confidence. Regardless of what we talk about, it will be from a spiritual perspective. Therefore, since entrepreneurship is a hot button for you, I’m going to start with a webinar on my area of expertise – image/branding.

Whether you’re an entrepreneur, employee, community activist or government official, or have dreams of being something that you are not right now, branding is crucial for your success.

I am poised to launch my first webinar, How to Create a Buzz: Grow Your Life and Business, on Thursday, December 12 at 12 noon. This webinar IS for YOU if you want to understand:

· Why you didn’t get the promotion or contract you expected
· How to stand out in a crowd
· What makes you likable.

Register Now!

There Is More,

Do the Work!

I bet you connected with the last message–we catch the vision early, but it takes years to execute it. A part of the reason it takes so long is because we are trapped in time. We are still sporting behaviors and entertaining thoughts that we’ve had during our teenage and young adult years. One of the elements of success is to do the work. I’m not saying get stuck trying to clear everything that happened in the past, but, most certainly it helps to acknowledge, accept, learn, forgive and move on. Unfortunately, sometimes we think we’ve moved on and really haven’t.

Don’t feel bad, though. We’ve all been there. And, we all have to do the work to move beyond that familiar place. In this audio, I share the importance of doing the work. And, I share a specific exercise to assist you on your journey. Download your audio for “Awaken Your Spiritual Senses” now.

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S. Renee
CEO – Author | Speaker | Branding & Life Coach | Image & Public Relations Consultant
There Is More Inside®
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