Inferiority: How Women Can Overcome Those Awkward Feelings

Feelings of inferiority indicate that you believe you are inadequate, unequal and unable to achieve something as a result of your opinion of yourself. The core battle of inferiority is what you believe about yourself in comparison to someone else. Please take note that at the core there is a belief that needs to shift.

Since you have already identified what you believe and the fact that the belief doesn’t add value to you, you are on your way to change. The next step is to pinpoint where your belief is coming from.

Ask yourself:

1. Who told me I was inferior because I am female?

2. Why did they believe that about females?

I think you’ll discover a list of untruths fueled by pain.

Next, take note of when you feel inferior and with whom you are with when you feel that way. Then ask yourself:

3. What is the truth about females?

4. What is the truth about me?

Every negative thought needs to be examined and challenged. When you do I’m confident you’ll see that it doesn’t have any real credibility and, therefore, isn’t deserving of your time or energy.

Copyright 2018 S. Renee Smith. S. Renee is a nationally recognized self-esteem, branding and communications expert, coach, speaker and author. She is author of the following books on self-esteem and confidence There Is More Inside: Personal Essentials to Living a Power-Packed Life and Self-Esteem for Dummies. For more information visit is www.srenee.com.

You Have to Fight With Yourself For Yourself

We’ve all had our share of disappointments, feelings of uncertainty and loneliness, and fear of change. And none of us are immune from experiencing these emotions again. But you have to decide to live life on your terms. From a higher awareness of who you are.

Yes, there is a price to pay.

Taking control and being accountable for your life requires discipline, focus, and sacrifice. At times, it means standing alone. My saving grace was a conscious decision to embrace the process, to grow through the process while holding onto my self-worth despite my hurt and disappointments. Bottom line, after realizing that I had to like myself before anyone else would like me, I learned how to fight for the person living inside my skin.

I was willing to fight for her because I got to know her. I liked her. I understood her. I began to see her value. I viewed her as a good person. There wasn’t a doubt that she wasn’t worth fighting for. Maybe you don’t like who you are right now. Let me suggest that you’re not looking at what makes you special. It’s unfortunate that many people will use every breath they take fighting for a relationship that doesn’t mean them any good, but won’t give a second thought to the unique person living inside of them. Perhaps because they don’t realize that there is such a being within them? Oh, but there is!

There’s a person of personality, character, and substance. A person that was born to make an impact. A person destined for greatness. A person that can handle every obstacle, challenge, and perceived defeat. A person who doesn’t have to emulate someone else to feel important and be accepted. A person who refuses to get attention through retaliation or by acting out someone else’s pain. Without a doubt, I know there’s a person like this lives inside of you!

Copyrights 2018 S. Renee Smith. An excerpt from my book, There Is More Inside: Personal Essentials to Living a Power-Packed Life. Now, on Kindle for .99 cents.

 

No One Has It All–Ever!

I just read designer Kate Spade, 55 was found dead in her NYC apartment from apparent suicide. As a person who has had an up-close experience with a loved one choosing to escape what is believed to be the unbearable, my thoughts and prayers are with her family and every family that has ever had to face this hardship. 

For many of us, it is disturbing to think that someone of great beauty and success failed to find–or buy whatever she wanted and needed.  We’ll ask ourselves, what was so difficult that she couldn’t come to terms with what seemed to be impossible, “She had it all.” 

But wait, before you go there you need to know this: No one has it all. What is “it all,” anyway? Perhaps, that’s the challenge we all face:  a yearning desire to find “it all” so we’ll happy forever.

This is the path to impossibility and discontentment. We all lessons that we have to learn and trials we have to go through. There’s no permanent place on earth that is happy ever after.

Prayer, mediation and practicing good will toward others is a good start on the path to happiness.  But on the journey, we all have to discover our place of contentment and peace that comes to those who are relentless in seeking it–even when it evades us.

I leave you with this poem that I wrote when our dear Christian passed. We have shared it with other families that have lost their loved ones to suicide and I share it with.

Be at peace.

Sometimes life gets lonely and filled with despair, but don’t fret; God is always there.

I made a choice  to take my flight, believing that it would lead me to the white light.

I know you will miss me, and I will miss you too, but we’re closer than you think; we are all connected through one link.

I loved you before I said good-bye, I love you still; don’t believe any other lie. Be strong, be wise, and be of good cheer; nothing has gone wrong, although it looks weird.

You taught me what I was to know. And I did the same for you on life’s stage show.

I send you my love, a hug, and a kiss; I have no more wishes because this day of freedom, peace and joy was on my list.

These are my last words to each of you: don’t mope, be depressed, or be blue. I told you from the beginning I’m alright; you taught me about God, angels and the white light.

I love you!

Poem Copyrights 2014 S. Renee Smith. Blog copyright 2018 S. Renee Smith, You can get my inspirational prayers on Amazon in my book, Our Hearts Wonder: Prayers to Heal Your Heart and Calm Your Soul.   Or via email at srenee@srenee.com.