As an introvert, how do I improve my communication skills?

If I understand your question, you are asking how can you improve your ability to connect and communication with people despite being shy? This being the case, I see this more as a challenge of how to step out of your shyness and being self-conscious about who you are in order to become more comfortable with yourself and others.

I was very shy growing up. This can make you feel lonely and invisible. If you are like me, by the nature of being shy, I was uncomfortable speaking and therefore, would become very nervous when I was around others and felt pressure when I was asked to speak. This caused me to stumble over my words.

I was able to overcome this challenge to ultimately become a successful speaker by doing the following:

  1. Recognize your equality to all people. It can be difficult to step out of your shyness with any limiting beliefs about yourself and your ability to successfully communicate your thoughts.
  2. Don’t compare yourself to others. When you look at others and compare yourself to them and how they communicate, it creates an artificial expectation of what you should be capable of doing.
  3. Practice sharing your opinion. A great start to breaking through the silence is to share what you’re thinking. To build your confidence and communication skills, take calculated risks by sharing with people you know genuinely like you and will celebrate your efforts.

Consider adding 5 Steps to Assertiveness How to Communicate with Confidence and Get What You Want to your reading list.

Copyright © 2018 S. Renee Smith.

Not Out of Obligation, But Appreciation

I want to quickly share a conversation that I hope will inspire you this Christmas Day.

A friend invited me to her home to celebrate Christmas Eve with her family. My heart wanted to be there, but

I wasn’t sure my tired body would sustain my heart’s desire. I told her that I planned to be there. She said, “I understand your work schedule, you don’t have to come out of obligation.” I said, “I wouldn’t come out of obligation, I would come out of appreciation. You love and support me, sis. I want to come and support you.”

Over the course of our 15-year friendship, I’ve seen many pieces of her life. I’ve met most of her family, but I hadn’t seen them all together. It was a joy to watch the personalities, relationship dynamics, and the spirit of Christmas gleam from her four children, four grandchildren, one in-law, former husband and family friend (who is due to deliver her second child any day) and her daughter.

I had an incredible time eating, laughing, and exchanging hopes, fears, dreams, and stories of God’s miraculous moves in our lives.

The spirit of Christmas reminds us of the appreciation and adoration of the incredible gift of life that changed the course of the universe. Jesus didn’t come out of obligation, he came out of appreciation for who we are and what we can become.

My prayer is that every moment you spend celebrating with those closest to you will be felt with the same level of love, freedom, and elevated awareness that Jesus bought to the plant.

There Is More Inside, YOU!

God Bless you, I love you, Merry Christmas!

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