You Have to Fight With Yourself For Yourself

We’ve all had our share of disappointments, feelings of uncertainty and loneliness, and fear of change. And none of us are immune from experiencing these emotions again. But you have to decide to live life on your terms. From a higher awareness of who you are.

Yes, there is a price to pay.

Taking control and being accountable for your life requires discipline, focus, and sacrifice. At times, it means standing alone. My saving grace was a conscious decision to embrace the process, to grow through the process while holding onto my self-worth despite my hurt and disappointments. Bottom line, after realizing that I had to like myself before anyone else would like me, I learned how to fight for the person living inside my skin.

I was willing to fight for her because I got to know her. I liked her. I understood her. I began to see her value. I viewed her as a good person. There wasn’t a doubt that she wasn’t worth fighting for. Maybe you don’t like who you are right now. Let me suggest that you’re not looking at what makes you special. It’s unfortunate that many people will use every breath they take fighting for a relationship that doesn’t mean them any good, but won’t give a second thought to the unique person living inside of them. Perhaps because they don’t realize that there is such a being within them? Oh, but there is!

There’s a person of personality, character, and substance. A person that was born to make an impact. A person destined for greatness. A person that can handle every obstacle, challenge, and perceived defeat. A person who doesn’t have to emulate someone else to feel important and be accepted. A person who refuses to get attention through retaliation or by acting out someone else’s pain. Without a doubt, I know there’s a person like this lives inside of you!

Copyrights 2018 S. Renee Smith. An excerpt from my book, There Is More Inside: Personal Essentials to Living a Power-Packed Life. Now, on Kindle for .99 cents.

 

Your Communication Style: What You Don’t Know Could Be Hindering Your Success

Chances are, you’ve seen, heard, and experienced all these styles in your interactions with others. Your usual style will likely fall into one of these categories, though it may change depending upon the situation.

Where do you fit?

Passive communicators have an established pattern of deliberately avoiding conflict by withholding their opinions, feelings, and ideas from others. Because they fail to set well-de ned boundaries, their rights are often violated. Passive communicators feel fearful, helpless, and invisible because they ignore their own needs while giving others permission to impose their will on them.

Aggressive communicators can appear to others as selfish, immature, and impulsive. Instead of taking responsibility for their actions, they may attack and blame others for the situation. They tend to have a low threshold for listening, triggering repeated interruptions while others are talking.

Passive-aggressive communicators are a combination of the passive communicator, who refuses to address problems, and the aggressive communicator, who lashes out. The difference between the aggressive communicator and the passive-aggressive communicator is that the passive-aggressive communicator’s behavior is unexpected. They appear to be cooperative, but their real agenda is vastly different.

Assertive communicators consciously enter into an unspoken agreement for the purpose of exchanging opinions, thoughts, feelings, and ideas. This joint agreement comes with an understanding that there are indisputable rights and privileges for the individuals who decide to participate in conversation.

These rights and privileges establish a collaborative expectation that sets the stage for a meaningful and successful exchange. This does not mean that every exchange will end in harmony. Most often the target is agreement, but the key is to maintain the overall health of the relationship even if the conversation begins to get chaotic and ends in disagreement.

Do you want to improve your relationships, position yourself for a promotion or speak up for yourself?

Click the link to get your copy. 5 Steps to Assertiveness How to Communicate with Confidence and Get What You Want.  

Copyrights 2018 S. Renee Smith, www.srenee.com. For speaking or coaching services call 888-588-0423.