Category Archives: Personal Development

26 MILLION…WHAT WOULD YOU DO WITH IT?

What would you do with 26 million minutes? If you are 50 years old or older, you have lived 26+ million minutes. 

Twenty-six million minutes! Marinate on that for a moment. It’s a sobering thought, isn’t it? It makes you pause and ask, “What have I done with 26+ million minutes?

These questions came to mind recently while reflecting on my life in San Antonio, Texas between meetings. In my silence, the answer came from a deep place within me. Time doesn’t go fast, as we often assert. We spend our time doing the wrong things with the wrong people creating a gut-wrenching feeling that we are missing out on something. With each passing day, there’s a feeling of loss. The swiftness of time is an easy criminal to point to.

The truth is this: The refusal to acknowledge, seek answers and take responsibility for unanswered yearnings, mystical dissatisfactions, and unhappiness points to our lack of confidence, courage, and willingness to embrace our competence is the real culprit of loss time.  

Time doesn’t go fast. It escapes those who disregard their power to use it wisely.  

I can’t tell you how to spend the next two seconds, minutes, hours, months, or years. But I can tell you this: without a clear mission and a plan on how you’ll achieve what you want, you’ll be close to where you are right now. If that works for you, don’t do one thing to change. If it doesn’t, and you have difficulty taking a step in the direction of your dream, let me help. 

In my book Harness the POWER of Personal Branding and Executive Presence: Elevate Your Life and Career Now! I give readers the strategies for change and then remind them of their ability to change by encouraging them to answer these questions.

  1. Think about a time when you had to change. Why did you need to change?
  2. What did you need to change?
  3. How did you feel when you realized you needed to change?
  4. How did you feel after the change?
  5. What steps did you take to embrace change?
  6. Write a statement about your ability to change and the value you get from changing.

So you see, you’ve changed many times in the past. You can do this. Don’t waste another moment with people and situations that are below your competence for success. Click here to order your copy of Harness the POWER of Personal Branding and Executive Presence and start building a plan for personal and professional success.

2019 © All Rights Reserved S. Renee Smith. S. Renee is a nationally recognized self-esteem, branding and communication speaker, author, and coach. You can learn more at www.srenee.com

SCARS REMIND US WE CAN MAKE IT THROUGH ANYTHING!

A former client and reader of Harness the POWER of Personal Branding and Executive Presence, Mona Andrei sent me an email today. She asked me to share this with you. She wrote, “I LOVED your analogy on scars (Page 12). I bookmarked it.  🙂 I think this little nugget of wisdom will help a lot of people.”

I hope she’s right. Here it is. Enjoy!

When I was three years old, my mother and I were visiting a neighbor. They had a blind dog. At the time, I was afraid of dogs. As the dog approached me, I ran. Sensing my fear, the dog ran after me and attempted to bite me in the face. My mother held up her arm to protect me. The dog bit her wrist instead. She was taken to the hospital, and a doctor closed the gash with stitches.

My mother still has a faded scar on her wrist as a reminder of the lesson we both learned, but the scar doesn’t hurt. Scars are reminders that you can make it through anything.

I want to make this information applicable to your challenges by differentiating between pain and a scar. When you conjure up your past feelings from some painful memory, you’re pulling yourself into the pain of the past; this behavior blurs the lines of truth, and you fail to see the facts.

When you can look back on a situation without emotion, you’re able to see that it’s a fading scar and you’re able to process the current challenge better. For example, my mother being bitten by the dog didn’t intensify my fear of dogs. Instead, my parents gave me the information I needed to interact with dogs more successfully, and the incident helped me better manage my fears.

What experiences of the past are you allowing to run and ruin your life, relationships, and career opportunities? Whatever they are, they don’t have to.

This is an excerpt from Harness the POWER of Personal Branding and Executive Presence: Elevate Your Life and Career NOW! Visit Amazon today to purchase your copy.

S. Renee Smith is an expert, speaker, trainer and certified professional coach. You can learn more about her work at srenee.com.

WHY SOME PEOPLE’S MISTAKES DON’T MATTER: Overcome Your Flaws By Communicating, Connecting and Committing

We all have flaws. Some more forgiving than others; regardless, they are flaws. However, why is it that two people can make the same mistake, yet suffer a different consequence?

While each may experience a backlash, one will have an active group of supporters that will come to their rescue compassionately justifying their actions. They’ll call on the community for backing while the other person will lose their career and life–as they know it. So why are the consequences so different? Politics, you say? What would you say if I told you that I believe that a person’s likability factor is at the core of their ability to escape condemnation?

Studies show that there is a connection between the level of punishment people believe you deserve and how likable you are. The New York Times article To Be Sued Less, Doctors Should Consider Talking to Their Patients More is just one example of how communication and connection increase your likability factor.

So how can you increase your likability factor?

Communicate: Don’t you enjoy a conversation about you or a topic that is important to you? Of course, you do. That’s why you join specific communities. You want to connect with people who will talk about subjects that are close to your heart.

And we all appreciate words of affirmation or encouragement. They remind us that we have a purpose, we’re making a difference, and someone sees us. Open up and have conversations with people, even the tough ones. As SHRM is leading the charge to ignite conversations that will change the workplace, we all must start with having a conversation with ourselves about ourselves. Consider my new book, Harness the POWER of Personal Branding and Executive Presence: Elevate Your Life and Career Now to start an internal dialogue.

Connect: This is why I’ve decided to partner with SHRM–because their message is courageous and bold–we have to connect with each other to create better workplaces and world. But, what does connect mean? I believe to sincerely want to know, understand, and like another human being. When we know and like ourselves, that charge is more desirable and easier to achieve.

Commit: We need one another to reach unimaginable levels of success. Being open to helping others reach their potential will undoubtedly help you reach yours–that’s what I know for sure.

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S. Renee, the author of Harness the POWER of Personal Branding and Executive Presence: Elevate Your Life and Career Now, is a nationally recognized self-esteem, branding, and communications speaker, talent development trainer, and certified professional coach. Book her for your next event by calling 888-588-0423 or visit www.srenee.com.