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Your Persona: Will It Get You What You Want?

Politicians, lawyers, and speakers face the challenge of communicating a message that makes a memorable impression on an audience. Needing to be likable and credible, they often hire experts to show them how to speak with confidence and use body language to be more effective communicators. But they aren’t the only ones who have to sway an audience to their way of thinking. You interact with people daily. Whether it’s your spouse, child, colleague, or customer, you need them to like you and listen to you.

Many people believe that these captivating, influential qualities are out of reach for them. But the truth is that everyone has their own unique characteristics that make them shine. It doesn’t matter what your occupation is; how you present yourself heavily influences whether leadership takes notice of you, which clients hire you, and what type of person dates you.

From the moment a person lays eyes on you, a perception of your character and temperament begins to take shape. This is because before you’ve introduced yourself, your choice of clothing, the pace of your walk, the expression on your face, and your hand movements announce the type of person you are likely to be. This is your persona.

If the feedback you received indicates that you’re being misjudged, then you aren’t transmitting the message you think you are. There is accuracy in what people see. Therefore, you have to make adjustments to get your nonverbal message in alignment with the impression you want to have on others.

Gain control of your image by doing the following:

1. Get clear on who you want to be and what you want to sayThe only way to confidently walk into a room and be certain about the message you’re communicating is to be deliberate about your nonverbal communication in addition to what you want to say and how you say it.

2. Manage your emotions.  Fifty-five percent of your nonverbal message is communicated through your facial expressions. This means your thoughts, opinions, and feelings initially show up where people look first for clues about you—your face.

3. Maintain eye contact. Eye contact is the entry to connection with others. Your eyes are a big factor of your facial expression. Eye contact is a persuasive tool that helps you strongly communicate your message. You use eye contact to communicate attentiveness, agreement, and appreciation.

This is an excerpt from my book, 5 Steps to Assertiveness How to Communicate with Confidence and Get What You Want.  Click the link to order now.

Copyrights 2018 S. Renee Smith, www.srenee.com. For speaking or coaching services call 888-588-0423.

 

 

Listening: The Best Strategy When Communicating With Difficult People

Yep! Some people are difficult to get along with. And it’s nerve-wreaking to try to communicate with them.

To mentally prepare for anything, you have to know what you’re preparing for. Most conversations are the result of something that has happened or needs to happen. Use this information to guide your thinking about the conversation. Remember, too, that you will likely be somewhat familiar with the background and communication style of the person involved in your conversation.

This knowledge makes preparation easier because, like football players who study videos of their opponents to develop strategies, you, too, will know what you can expect in terms of the person’s communication style.

I am not encouraging you to enter the conversation with preconceived notions about the person or what they will say. That is dangerous. Football players don’t review videos to make assumptions about the opposing team. They review videos to understand how the team thinks, operates, and performs. They use this information to devise their mental, emotional, and physical strategy to outplay their opponent.

By preparing in a similar manner for your conversations—taking time to con- sider the other person’s communication style, perspective, and possible expectations—you’ll prepare yourself to have the insight and stamina to be an assertive listener. Being an assertive listener means entering the conversation as the recipient. You are there to hear what is being said and to listen for what the speaker really wants and needs from you.

Always remember this: It may seem as though you’re in the position of power when you are talking, but that’s not true. You are in the position of power when you are listening. Listening is learning. When you are learning, you are adding to what you know about how the person thinks and feels and what that person wants to happen. When you are talking, you’re providing that information to them.

Click the link to get your copy. 5 Steps to Assertiveness How to Communicate with Confidence and Get What You Want.  

Copyrights 2018 S. Renee Smith, www.srenee.com. For speaking or coaching services call 888-588-0423.