Feelings of inferiority indicate that you believe you are inadequate, unequal and unable to achieve something as a result of your opinion of yourself. The core battle of inferiority is what you believe about yourself in comparison to someone else. Please take note that at the core there is a belief that needs to shift.
Since you have already identified what you believe and the fact that the belief doesn’t add value to you, you are on your way to change. The next step is to pinpoint where your belief is coming from.
1. Who told me I was inferior because I am female?
2. Why did they believe that about females?
I think you’ll discover a list of untruths fueled by pain.
Next, take note of when you feel inferior and with whom you are with when you feel that way. Then ask yourself:
3. What is the truth about females?
4. What is the truth about me?
Every negative thought needs to be examined and challenged. When you do I’m confident you’ll see that it doesn’t have any real credibility and, therefore, isn’t deserving of your time or energy.
Copyright 2018 S. Renee Smith. S. Renee is a nationally recognized self-esteem, branding and communications expert, coach, speaker and author. She is author of the following books on self-esteem and confidence There Is More Inside: Personal Essentials to Living a Power-Packed Life and Self-Esteem for Dummies. For more information visit is www.srenee.com.
The first step to overcoming any challenge in your life, specifically your feelings of inferiority, is to acknowledge the challenge.
Growing up I had my own internal questions and body sensations that made me feel uneasy as I mentally battled within myself about my worthiness to be in the presence of certain people. I even experienced anxiety to go certain places knowing how I would feel when I got there.
In my book, There Is More Inside Personal Essentials to Living a Power-Packed Life I confessed, “I had my work cut out for me! I liked it when people told me how great I was—how talented, intelligent, and attractive I was. It gave me an external confidence, but inside I still didn’t own this belief myself. I would sabotage great opportunities and blame others when I ‘failed’. Deep within I doubted my abilities and, like most, questioned my existence.”
After doing my work and developing tools to help people to do their‘s, I offer you these starter questions:
- Together let’s agree that feeling inferior means that you believe the other person (or people) is more attractive, smarter, richer, or whatever you have told yourself and, therefore they have an advantage over you. Now ask yourself, what do you believe the other person (people) has that you don’t?
- Examine where that belief comes from. You believe what you believe based on what you’ve been told, accepted as true and what you have experienced. But is it true? When you don’t examine and challenge your beliefs they can hinder you from moving forward. Ask yourself, what do I believe about myself and others that is causing me to feel this way? And, why do I believe it?
- Change your story. Now that you have discovered a new truth—own that truth. Change the story you tell yourself about yourself. When you give yourself the gift of a new narrative and different perspective, you’ll create new thoughts, feelings and ideas about yourself and others.
Copyright © 2018 S. Renee Smith.